Friday, August 2, 2013

Reasons Why It Isn't Always Great To Tell Your Friends About Everything In Your Relationship


I've always been a firm believer that you should always be mindful of how much you share of your love life with your friends. Yes, it's great to be able to vent to them about the things that you experience however some or most of that information that you blurt out while angry, frustrated, mad, or when you're just in a chatty mood can come back to haunt you. I've been there before; heart broken, confused, and stark raving mad. Riddled with emotion I turned to my closest girlfriends to vent and receive the usual, "...It's ok girl, he was a jerk anyway. You're so much better off without him...," speech. This is my list of the things that I'd advise that you not to tell your friends about your relationship.

FIGHTS

It’s okay to tell your friends about your relationship, it’s even okay to tell them when you get into a fight. But never go into the specifics unless you’re asking for an HONEST opinion. I have a friend that always asks me to tell her if she’s being crazy about a fight that she’s having but she never really wants to hear my opinion, so it's awkward. On the few occasions that I do give her my honest opinion she gets angry because it isn't what she wants to hear. I can't stress how important this is, and that's why it's at the top of my list of things not to tell your friends about your relationship. Ever.

CHEATING (IF YOU’RE GOING TO TRY TO WORK IT OUT)

If someone cheats on you and you dump them, feel free to tell all of your friends (and a few strangers) how much of a scumbag they are.Sing it from the roof top if you can. But, if you’re working it out or you know that there is a remote possibility that you would want to some time in the future then NEVER tell your friends that your significant other cheated. You may forgive them because you love them but your friends love you, and they won’t.

YOUR SIGNIFICANT OTHER’S PROBLEMS

Your friends are YOUR friends, and your partners problems really aren't yours to share. Let your partner talk about their problems with whoever they choose. It’s not fair for your friends to know everything about your significant other’s life.

SEX

Don’t tell your friends the specifics of your sex life.  Your friends don’t need to know if you need to talk your significant other in for little blue pills. That’s something you should keep between you and your partner. Don’t tell them about any kinks your boyfriend/girlfriend has because from that point on, your friend will never be able to look them in the eye again. And on some occasions if you share how GREAT the bedroom game is some people find themselves in the unfortunate situation where your "friend" would want to sample the good loving you speak of. Yikes.

MONEY PROBLEMS

It’s okay to talk to your friends about money problems of your own but it’s not okay to bring your significant other’s finances into that conversation. A lot of people are very sensitive about what they perceive as weakness and that’s never a line you want to cross. Don't do it.


I know that we all want to believe that we live in a world like Sex and The City where we can all sit down with our girlfriends and discuss everything about everything in our lives. But, the truth is martinis and cosmos and endless conversation might be great on TV, but in real life they can get a little awkward when you see your Carrie’s Big on the street. What don’t you ladies share with your friends about your relationships? Let me.

Love to Love Ya...



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